How many times during your day, do you experience negative self talk? Are you the type of person that thinks negatively about most things in your life? Are the words you choose to think or say of a negative nature?
Are you even aware that you’re doing it? Many people aren’t even aware that the things they say to themselves mentally, or the things they mutter under their breath, are negative and can be sabotaging their progress and success in life.
The first thing you need to do is to become aware of the type of negative words you are using. Also, pay attention to when you are doing it. If you mutter things to yourself when something goes wrong, start listening to yourself. It’s likely that your choice of words are negative and unhelpful.
Here are some examples of negative self-talk phrases:
- “Well, I knew that would happen”
- “Well, that’s how things go for me”
- “Why should I expect anything to be different?”
- “That’s just my luck”
What you are actually doing is engaging in negative self talk. This type of thinking is not helpful to you or your situation and it will probably put you in an unhappy mood.
Stop expecting bad things to happen
Things will go wrong in our everyday lives. We do not lead perfect lifestyles! When we find ourselves in these situations, it can be difficult to see any positive light in a negative situation. I know, it can be very difficult to be positive when everything seems to be going wrong for you. Have you ever noticed when one thing goes wrong, if you react negatively it can create a domino or snowball effect, and the rest of the day seems to go the same way. Instead, try acknowledging that the negative thought is not helpful and let it pass through your mind. If you choose to not let it bother you or to dwell on it, then chances are things will start to go smoothly again.
More often than not, it’s the one little minor instance that gets the ball rolling. When you think negatively about it you are actually giving power to the negative thought and it escalates. Instead, try replacing it with a positive thought. Think of something you’re grateful for. This will not only change your mood and outlook but it will change your vibration as well. When you get into a positive vibration it helps to repel the negative.
Choose positive words over negative self talk
Over time, negative self talk can be quite detrimental to your mental and physical health. It can also lead to low self-esteem and low quality of life, as well as alienate you from friends or work colleagues if your negativity is affecting your mood and outlook on life.
One thing you can do to turn this type of negative and unhelpful thinking around, is to use positive words instead of negative words, throughout your day. This could be either in your workplace, when talking to friends or just the thoughts floating through your mind.
Surrounding yourself with positive people can also make a significant difference to how you think about yourself and your life.
You can also benefit from reading and saying positive affirmations on a daily basis. This may be challenging in the beginning if you’ve been a negative thinker for a long time, so start practicing when you are in a good mood. By doing this you will be preparing yourself to put them to good use when you find yourself starting to think negative or talking down to yourself. I like to read positive affirmations or quotes each morning when I wake, as this helps put my mind in a good place for the day ahead.
I am the product of my thoughts.
What I think, I become. – Mahatma Gandhi
This is an affirmation I read regularly when I find myself spiralling into a pattern of negative thinking. With a little practice each day, see if you can turn your negative self talk into positive self talk.
Pay attention to the things that make you think and feel negative. There’s often a pattern to these events. If you can start to recognise the triggers and start using your positive words and affirmations, you can ward off a negative melt-down. It may even feel unnatural at first, but once you start practicing this it will get easier.
You don’t have to go through life being or feeling negative. You have a choice to change your behavior. When you catch yourself engaging in negative self talk, be kind to yourself and just acknowledge it. Then, take that thought and rephrase it choosing positive words. Try it and see if you start to feel better. See if people around you respond to you differently. It’s time to change your way of thinking and STOP the negative self talk.